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Role Playing Series
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By Tracy Ames
Published on January 17, 2010
 
**UPDATED**
Day Three of a Three Day Series


Let’s face it, we all have sexual fantasies. Whether it’s the naughty schoolgirl or the bank teller that caught your eye, we all have them. However, engaging in a few minutes of dirty talk before tackling one another isn’t the same as sexual role play. Sexual role play takes you deeper into character; it’s multi-dimensional and it librates you from your daily routine....

Day Three: Setting ground rules and boundaries

Role Playing Series: Dirty Talk vs Real Role Play
Let’s face it, we all have sexual fantasies. Whether it’s the naughty schoolgirl or the bank teller that caught your eye, we all have them. However, engaging in a few minutes of dirty talk before tackling one another isn’t the same as sexual role play. Sexual role play takes you deeper into character; it’s multi-dimensional and it librates you from your daily routine.








Don’t get me wrong, dirty talk is hot…I love dirty talk but it’s not role play. Role play takes preparation and requires some sexual forethought; whereas dirty talk is a few dirty words…a smack on the ass and away we go.


Generally speaking the nervousness one feels about sexual role play comes from the lack of preparation. The more prepared you are, the more comfortable you and your mate will be in character. The best way to avoid these speed bumps or 'dead air’ is to break it down—build your scene using the following:


* Who do you want to be?
* What’s the scenario?
* How can you dress it up?
* What’s your motivation?
* What (and where) are the boundaries and the ground rules?   


My recommendation to couples who want to explore the Kinkier side of town where the naturally non-dominate man will be playing a dominate part is to create an alter ego. Have fun with it…turn it into a “Me, Myself & Irene” thing. Completely go balls to the walls! Give your alter ego a name, job, a certain walk or stare, taste palate, build him/her a past. This will help you stay in character and rid some of the guilt if you will.


Example: Mike would never think of tying his wife to the bed and riding her like a pony but “Luke” would. Which means Mike is in the clear when the scene ends!


There again, it takes forethought and tapping into what turns you on. In the beginning, it’s difficult for some people to jump in to character, however as you become accustom to ‘playing’ it will become easier to get into character. A few months ago I helped a married couple build a scene and I was shocked how well the husband (very shy) got into his character, Todd. He totally dove in and built Todd to the hilt. I was baking cookies and offered to make them a batch—the husband says, “Todd doesn’t like oatmeal raisin.”

That’s the spirit! Really get in there and create your alter ego. I'll peel away at the character layers tomorrow. You're gonna love it!


Bottom line: Dirty talk is bare bones and can be done on the fly whereas sexual role play takes time—it’s more in-depth. And in my opinion, ten times hotter than dirty talk. Put some thought into what you want to happen and tune in tomorrow.


Tomorrow’s topic: Choosing a scenario and Finding your motivation and character.

 




Role Playing Series: Choosing a scenario and Finding your motivation and character
For some people, discovering what turns them on can be a daunting task or a slow meandering walk of shame. To those people I say “Get over it”. We’re adults and don’t have to answer to anyone concerning our sexuality. What you create with your mate is singular onto you. Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed of the roles you want to explore. It’s your fantasy, screw others and their opinions.


The first step into creating your role play scenario is to figure out whom you want to become—who/what do you see yourself as. Choosing the correct character is key. You want to push your boundaries but not go too far that you find it difficult to buy into it. Try steering away from characters that resemble your day-to-day lives and sex life. The most important thing is to take chances, experiment, go nuts and reel it in until you come to a happy medium.


Role Play Character and Motivation Hideouts:

Historical Figures: Winston Churchill is a popular one for some odd reason. I don’t see it but it’s not my fantasy. Other popular historical characters are: Henry the 8th, Marie Antoinette, and old TJ (Thomas Jefferson) himself. Don’t ask, don’t tell.

Movie Stars: Um…see my “Hottie” album on Facebook for sweet inspiration! Do you see yourself as a hot Bond Girl to Daniel Craig’s 007? Or maybe a sexy Angelina from Mr. & Mrs. Smith? Well here’s your chance to play. Pick movie stars or scenes that get you going.

Rock Out: Why not become one of your favorite singers or imagine yourself being sexed up by them! Maybe pretend you’re a groupie who’s carrying on torrent affair with the leader singer or have a quick one night stand. Mix it up!

Super Hero: Batman, Spiderman, and Superman are the popular male characters. Wonder Woman, Bat Girl and Storm are the popular female characters. Why not try something different: The Green Lantern. Okay that’s all I got!


Common Characters:

Business Person
Globe Trotter
Handyman
Nurse/Doctor
Cops and Robbers
Fire Fighters
Bank Teller
Shop Keeper
Limo Driver
Pilot
Rogue Chef
Stripper
Cowboy



For the most part choosing your scenario pretty much goes hand-in-hand with choosing your character. However, details can take you deeper into a sexual role play scenario. When you first imagine a sexual scene the main points may be enough to get you going, but the more detail you can add to the fantasy the more alive it becomes. Details can also be great for awkward moments when you don’t know what to do next. “Dead Air” is a mood killer! Props, lingo, and well developed alter egos/characters will pull you into the scene—you’ll become more engrossed…hence no dead air.


Think it out: If you wanna be a stripper who makes out with a client, there are a few elements to think about…the ‘story’ will take your scene over the top:

What’s the story? Aside from the sex, what’s going to happen?
How did they meet? Is he/she a regular client?
What is the physical setting? What kind of room (large, small, dark, brightly lit).
What time of day is it?
Are there other people nearby, are you in a public place, or completely secluded where no one will hear you scream? (Having others nearby is HOT! Don’t ask how I know)

If you’re considering doing a stripper scene, checkout my story “Kept”. It may give you some ideas.
 

Tomorrow's Topic: Setting ground rules and boundaries. I'll also supply a few links for clothing shops.




Role Playing Series: Setting ground rules and boundaries

Any Kinkster will tell you setting ground rules and boundaries for role play is critical. Some of these rules should be common sense and common courtesy, such as no laughing at your partner, and no judging each other in the moment. Other rules will take some thought and good communication.


Sexual role play can be extremely revealing. Some people find themselves (and their inner slut) exposed to the world. This can be both hot and equally terrifying. Setting ground rules is vital to creating safe and comfortable atmosphere free of judgment and ridicule.


Some of these rules merely good judgment and good manners. Here are some basic rules that everyone should be willing to adhere to:


You Wanna Do What?: No judgment and/or laughing. Period! Laughter during a scene equates to being kicked in the balls (or cooter). Game over! Remember what your mother told you: It’s not what you say; it’s how you say it. If you’re not ‘feeling’ your hubby’s cowboy fantasy, don’t belittle him. Try to compromise…besides, he may not dig your stripper fantasy. To each his own.

Not So Fast: Listen up, this is the one rule that must be adhered to at all times: Anyone at anytime can stop a scene. Whether you’re creating a Kink or vanilla scene, the rule aforementioned is The Golden Rule. Role play can be intense, and it can stir up deeply rooted never before tapped emotions that may send you running for cover. At any point a participant is uncomfortable or injured, the scene ends and aftercare begins. No if, ands, or buts!

Speak Up: Creating a Safe Word is imperative in Kink however; they can come in handy during vanilla scenes as well (yes, I’ve had to use mine with Greg during vanilla sex. Sadistic bastard). Your safe word is your ‘flag on the play’. Once uttered, the scene ends so choose your safe word carefully. “No”, “More” or “Yes” are horrible safe words! Choose a word that’s completely out of the ordinary….something that has no place in the scene or conversation at all. Good words might be: Peanut butter, Pinto, Egg. Words that have no rhyme or reason work best.


I recommend having a candid conversation with your playmate regarding your boundaries. These questions might help get the banter going:

* What are your limits?
* How far are you willing to go?
* Are there any hard stops (mentally, emotionally, and/or physically)?
* What type of sex did you want?
* How do you see the scene ending? (Some people want a hard end meaning a word that signals the end of a scene   rather then simply falling asleep)


As promised, I would be supplying links to sex shops I adore. You can also order online:

Good Vibrations

V.I.P. Very Intimate Pleasures (no online store but worth the trip)

Classy Corsets (I’m a corset addict!)

Wonderland UK

Lingerie Diva

Erotic Cabaret (Online store is available now)


I had one question come in last night concerning body paint and cunny gels. My answer: If they will be used on your cooter, avoid any products containing sugar. Sugar + Cooter= Agressive Yeast Infection.

Well that's it folks! I hope you’re enjoyed the series and, as always, if you have any questions or comments please let me know. Cheers!
 

Tracy!