This post is about sex. Wow. Are you really surprised? You do realize what site you happen to be on huh? Yes this post is about sex. Duh. Not so much sex but turn-on myths when it comes to women.


I am 100% woman and I am so tired of other women and society speaking for all women. Let’s get this straight.  Other women cannot say what other women feel about sex or what turns them on.



There are myths that have been floating around since Adam and Eve and I don’t know who made them up or where they came from. I guess a few women back in caveman days felt a certain way about sex then folks ran with it. You know that book, “Men are From Mars and Women are from Venus?” Well some of us are from Saturn. So chew on that if you don’t get my drift.

I wanna talk about some sex myths that are simply untrue when it comes to women. So listen up because this practice of women speaking for women must stop. You can’t say what the hell another woman wants or likes. Shut the fuck up!

Myth 1:

Women prefer to read sex while men prefer to watch it. Bullshit. That is straight up bullshit. Now maybe some women prefer to read over watching but not all women. I am one of those women. I don’t like to read about sex. Erotica is cool for reading pleasure but as far as stimulating me, no. I like to SEE it. Yes I like to watch porn. I want to see the nasty, not read about it. I don’t wanna imagine it in my head. I want to SEE it. A lot of women are just like me. Yes, a lot of us like to see it! Some like both but I am so sick of this myth that women are against porn or that we don’t like to view anything sexual.  I’m tired of people making women out to be repressed and hung up about sex all the damn time. Please. If that were true no one would be here.


Myth 2:

All women like foreplay. No. No, no, no, no, no. That’s not true either and I know I made a lot of men happy out there when I said that. Some women like to hit it and quit it. Some women have sex drives ten times more powerful than their partners. We don’t wanna sit there all night. Some of us don’t need the man to warm us up because by the time he gets to the bedroom we’re already there.  Some women like hours of foreplay, but not every damn body!  Hell candles and music is sweet sure, but it’s not necessary all the damn time. In fact I’d rather skip it most times and get to the loving.  People think women only wanna be romanced. Wrong. Some of us just want what we want, no strings attached. Different things turn different women on. Remember that. How many times must I say women are not all the same?


Myth 3:

During sex, women like romantic words instead of dirty ones. Hell no. Not all women and not all the time. It depends on the circumstances. Dirty words turn me on. I like it when the man makes rough demands. Sometimes you want, “Oh let me kiss your sweet body.” Other times you want your man to grab your hips, snap your head back and go, “Take it, bitch!” Am I lying? Sometimes talking dirty fits what’s going on. Do you know the difference between sex and fucking? When women make love, the kind words go a long way. But when that man has us bent over the couch in the employees’ lounge, engaging in a quickie, the dirty words are what we long to hear. There is a time and place for romance and sweetness and there is a time when some women like it a little rough and a little nasty.

I think that’s one thing ALL women can agree on.  Me, I know what I want. So women, stop speaking for me!

Best Wishes!

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