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Black Woman Dating White Men
- By Kyana Latislaw
- Published February 12, 2009
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Recently, my husband and I went to see the movie Lakeview Terrace and a few years ago we saw the movie Something New and both of these movies depict the act of a black woman dating a white man as some sort of freaky thing. I'll admit it wasn't a popular thing when my husband and I first got married but, our marriage was never based on color. Yes, I see the color of his skin and he sees mine but, on the inside we bleed the same and we love the same although we were raised very different.
I was raised like many minorities; I had a single mother, a pay check away from poverty, and my father was totally absent. My husband on the other hand was raised with both parents, his dad owned his own cleaning business and even when his parents were divorced, he still maintained a close relationship with both parents. My family is very accepting of him and most of his family accepting of me. I don't really think his family totally understands the life of someone who has been born out of wedlock, a minority, and poverty. Therefore, sometimes they sometimes they make me feel uncomfortable and judged.
Obviously, Lakeview Terrace isn't how everyday Americans deal with interracial couples with hate crimes and obscene behavior but, I do see the looks from black men and white women. Some white women look at us in disgust and the black men look at me like I'm a traitor.
Most black women act like it doesn't bother them unless they see a black man with a white woman and that's because black men have the reputation of not taking care of their wives and kids and then some of those same black men will get with a white woman a treat her like gold. I know exactly how it feels to have a father not take care of you and not show the tiniest bit of love to and then marry someone else and have three kids with them and be the trophy father to them. It doesn't feel good but, I don't believe individuals should be the voice for everyone that fit into their race bracket.
It's funny how so many things in the world are going wrong like the economy, gas, food, and many other things and people are actually bothered by people of different races being together. People should be happy that people love one another. I love my husband very much and I've dated African American, Caucasian, Asian, Dominican and Bi-racial people. Love is love and skin color is like the color of eyes; they come in different shapes, colors, and sizes.
I really believe that someday fifty percent of the population will be biracial. Look around, there is a strong possibility that the next president might be a biracial man and that has nothing do with the matter of him being able to get the job done or not. Most parents who have mentally challenged children don't hate their children because their different. When will this world learn what true love is. When someone has a heart of true love they don't just love one person but, they are able to love anyone; even their enemies.
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7 Responses to "Black Woman Dating White Men"
said this on 14 Apr 2009 2:29:13 AM CDT
I agree with you. I refuse to let people define me, who the hell is society to judge me. My hhusband is indian, and i'm black. Quite frankly, sometimes i want to rip those indian girls head off, same with the black folks. But when i really think about, my marriage is more important than biggoted individuals. We are living in a new age, people should get over petiness and move on.
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said this on 14 Apr 2009 8:30:56 AM CDT
Well said my friend....well said. There are more important things to worry about.
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said this on 01 Mar 2010 4:02:22 AM CDT
I need advice: aside from social networking sites like Facebook & Myspace, where, all the white guys want to add me 'cause I'm supposedly "a fine chocolate" (corny, I know! lol), how does a smart, well-rounded, educated, hard working, christian and fun young black single woman find a good white man?
It sometimes feel like it the scum of the Earth caucasian males that want to flirt online! In reality, they seem to be scared or indifferent to dating a black woman! And, I'm from Canada, it's pretty much very open to interracial couples compared to the US. I mean, I had to meet my ex all the way on Facebook and have a long distance relationship (we saw each other once a month), in order to experience my 1st interracial relationship. I guess what I'm asking is, can you write something on how to spot or know when a white man is into black women? And when to know when it's only a fetish and when it's the real deal for him wanting to date outside his own race? Maybe you've written something on this already, haven't got a chance to go over your website totally... I've always been drawn-attracted to white guys, as early as kindergarden! lol... my parents always feared it, my siblings always saw it and my friends always thought I was in denial (I wasn't admitting it, up until late adolescence). I'm happy to say that, for my parents, my big brother and my friends, as long as the guy is Christian, they don't care if he's not black. But, my older sister (who is the 1st born as well), she is your typical black person who doesn't "believe" in interracial relationships. She still thinks that its wrong and that whites that go for blacks only want to experiment! She knows how I feel about her views and she doesn't respect my opinion,she thinks she is right and she often tries to influence my parents over it, making it seem like, since I'm the baby of the family, I need guidance in my love life! She blames it on TV...lol, anyways, it's sad, because, she knows I've always wanted her as my maid of honor for when I'll get married someday. But, I know deep down, she'll feel as if I'm going to ruin my life. *sighs* Anyways, I'll stop my rantings, my main goal was to have tips on how to meet a decent, educated, with moral values and fun white guy who actually is into the idea of his wife being black? lol Thx and really nice website overall! |
said this on 01 Mar 2010 12:30:52 PM CDT
Hi Lyneacc! I have written a short piece on here to find honest White men who are interest in dating Black women. The piece was popular and sparked and entire series about dating WASP. I'll be revisiting the original topic because of the sheer amount of emails I received asking for MORE!
Interracial dating in the US can be difficult at times depending on where you live. Sadly, this is true. And I'm sorry your sister degrees with your choice of mates, she'll come around once she sees you're happy. I'll get working on the updated article on dating but for now the first link is below. https://interracialerotica.net/erotica/blogs/373/Multi-Dimensional-Questions-None-I-Will-Attempt-to-Tackle.html |
said this on 24 Jan 2012 10:02:26 PM CDT
im white and only love black women
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said this on 07 Mar 2012 9:52:10 PM CDT
im still looking for a young ebony chick. havent got one yet.
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said this on 22 Jan 2013 5:03:22 AM CDT
Had to comment on this article!
I'm about 1/8th black, 7/8ths white. My Mother who is white married my Father who is black, who died when I was 7. But my Mother remarried a dark skinned man who never sees his own kids. But he's been the best step-dad in the world, just like my real Father. But my Mother gets a lot more 'abuse' than with my real Father because he's very dark skinned. I get rude comments if I'm with a dark skinned guy too, but if I'm with a white guy no one cares. It's still all about skin colour for most people, not race. |